It is not easy to decide how to react If you know for a fact that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Children, legal status of the alliance, financial situation etc might be factors that will have considerable influence on your decision. When facing this choice, you have to evaluate all facets of this relationship, in order to make the wisest decision. The psychological pain that an affair can inflict on the betrayed partner can be tremendous. Therefore many of us would prefer to end the relationship and see the break up as the necessary result of the infidelity. Others feel incapable of taking such a decision and the fact that their boyfriend is cheating does not break off the relationship. It is entirely up to you to decide which way you are going to go once you discover for a fact that your boyfriend is cheating. When my best friend was confronted by her boyfriend’s infidelity simply became numb. She did not want to believe the facts that he was cheating on her, she did not want to confront her boyfriend, nor consider a possibility of a breakup. Her way of coping with her partner’s infidelity was - denial. Sometime later, the suppressed feelings took over her as she realized that the wound of cheating became “infected” because it was left untreated. For too long she has ignored signs boyfriend is cheating and now she was forced to face her emotions and the results of an emotional pain built up. When the problem is not addressed quickly, it tends to grow and aggravate in consequences.
The day I got a confirmation that my boyfriend is cheating , my ego was shot my trust was betrayed and my heart was broken. I took that infidelity personally until I realized that there is nothing I could do to satisfy my first boyfriends desire to walk on the “dark side”. He was always dissatisfied with his relationships and doubted himself. It seemed like the only way for him to boost his self-esteem was to seduce another woman, over and over again. As time went by I understood that he was the one that had an issue and there is nothing I could do to heal his thirst. I loved him very much and gave him all the time and affection, but he kept seeking adventures and violating my trust. Until one day, the concierge of my building walked up to me, and said: “It is really none of my business, but your boyfriend is cheating.” One of my friends found out that her boyfriend was cheating by using a software that recorded his activity on her computer (called Supreme Spy - KeyStroker)

It was no news to me, but at that very moment I realized I had a decision to make. Either to accept this unilateral “open-relationship” and embrace his infidelity or to walk away. That day, I have reached my boiling point, I went upstairs, packed my suitcase and left him forever. This decision was mine, whatever situation you are in, remember : “ You always, have a choice!”

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