Love is a wonderful feeling, that fills our hearts absorbs our minds and uplifts our souls.

Love is unexplainable , love is magic and love is pure.

Many timeless poems, magnificent plays and beautiful paintings were a direct result of this feeling. Love is powerful, love is omnipresent, but love is also uncontrollable. It can’t be tamed, nor can it be reasoned. But sometimes, love just fades away, gradually wearing itself out. It is a whole other subject as to why, but we will rather speak of when. When you take away the letter L from the word “Lover”, you will start to wonder if it’s time to let go. If you are wondering when to breakup with your partner, this article might help.

How to breakup, when the feelings are gone.

When it comes to calling it quits, you do not want to lay the blame on the person nor on yourself. In fact, blaming anyone in this situation is not only useless, but also frustrating. Cliché phrases like “It `s not you, it’s me” have been proved to offer no comfort to the person on the receiving end. Rather, fundamental differences such as life goals, or personal values should be used as an explanation. Perhaps over time, you have undertaken different journeys and the common grounds you once shared are not what they used to be. Do not be judgmental or bring your partner down in any way, it is not the question of each one’s supremacy over the other. It is a question of differences. Be delicate and tactful with your words, as you are delivering some very hard news. Do not try to spend more time with your partner after the breakup, it might give false hopes and wrong ideas, when it’s done it’s done. Offering friendship is not always the best thing either. It’s hard to accept the invitation after your heart was broken by the very same person who now wants to be your friend.

When to breakup with your partner?

Firstly, you have to be 100% sure of your intentions, before you consider breaking the news. No matter how diplomatic and agreeable you are when breaking up, it is most probably going to be hard pill for your partner to swallow. And words cannot be taken back without leaving a trace on the other person’s mind. Therefore, think twice before you do. But do not think too long either, as it will make it a lot harder on both of you.

Secondly, do not break up on any meaningful dates (anniversaries, birthdays, official holidays etc.) because it will make it even worst for the other person. It is not a celebration of an ended relationship, it is actually going to be a heart ache for at least one of you. Do not breakup in public, in front of any children involved (if any) or in the presence of your new lover (if the case applies). Be respectful with the person, you once called your own! And remember that there are proper places and times when to breakup.

How to get over a breakup that you called? I have read a great book called It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy which talks a lot about the break up, I recommend you get a copy for yourself.

This topic is discussed in another section of this website. Most important is give your partner some room to get used to the idea and sometimes it’s best to just part ways, friendship between girls and guys is rarely genuine and your case might not be different.

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